There are literally millions of parenting blogs. According to eMarketer, in just the U.S. and just among moms, there were over 4 million in 2014. Adding in the time that has passed, Dads who are blogging, and of course all the professionals, that number is likely quite a bit higher.
Many are excellent, while others are much less so. Even those that are outstanding are so numerous that you could read every day all day and still not make a dent. In a word, you will still be sinking in the sea of parenting blogs and parenting-related social media.
Using social media for parenting is very important to us. For instance, the Pew Research Center recently conducted a study titled Parents and Social Media and found that “more than three-quarters (79%) of parents who use social media agree that they get useful information from their social media networks”.
However, only “a third of mothers (34%) say they “sometimes” get helpful parenting information from their social networks, and an additional 10% say this occurs “frequently.” This compares with 14% of fathers who “sometimes” find useful parenting information on their social networks and 3% who do so “frequently.” Furthermore, fathers are more likely than mothers to say they “never” come across useful parenting information on social media– 51% vs. 33%.”
This highlights how key it is that we be able to make the most of our time when we access the internet for parenting guidance and support. Without a game plan and without being pretty savvy about what we need and what constitutes useful information to us, we face sinking into the sea of parenting-related social media and being inundated with information that simply is a waste of time and effort.
So how can you swim instead of sink?
The other day I saw this headline for a parenting blog: “How Can You Control Your Emotions When Parenting?” and I thought as I do regularly in such situations, we have an assessment that measures just this very thing.
A main purpose of the 3 dozen assessments in our library is that they allow you to learn a great deal about your parent-self and about your children. By doing so, you have a solid starting point to then guide you as you look for, read, and reflect on the parenting blogs available.
Through assessment in the core areas of parental stress, parent-child relationships, parenting styles, understanding and handling children, parenting confidence and satisfaction, and child social-emotional-behavioral functioning:
- You can clarify and articulate what is important to you
- You can know your strengths
- You can better understand the areas where you will want to improve
If you find yourself making decisions about which parenting blogs to read in a rather random fashion and walking away feeling like you may not have spent your time wisely, chances are you can benefit from taking a step back to really assess yourself in the parental role.
Our assessments are all developed by psychologists and they have demonstrated psychometric reliability and validity. I like to say “We’re not Buzzfeed and in this case that’s a good thing!”
They are also quickly accessible by completing online and they offer a great return-on-investment at between $12 and $20.
I’ll leave you with an analogy. Imagine packing for a trip without knowing vital information like what the weather is, how long you might be gone, or what activities you will do. Without a solid handle on knowing and understanding your parent-self, you’re on your parenting journey without vital information relevant to one of the most important trips you’ll take in life.
Check out the assessments
I invite you to explore our website and learn more about the assessments and how they were selected, as well as to order. If you aren’t sure which assessment might be right for you, please reach out to us at any time for assistance.
And remember my speaking of the assessment that measures parents and their own emotions? Here is the Parent Emotional Flooding Scale so that you get a very good idea of what one of our assessments measures!
Parent Emotional Flooding
Feelings that child’s negative emotions during conflict are unpredictable, upsetting, and stressful.
Parents feeling overwhelmed can happen when a child has intense and negative emotions. The aversive nature of their child’s anger and/or getting upset can then make a parent very distressed physically and psychologically. When parents are flooded with their own emotions it is difficult to be at their best and not feel dissatisfaction with parenting. Children in turn can be even more prone to behavioral difficulties. This assessment allows you to know if your reactions to this type of parenting stress are in the range that would be an indication for concern.
Article Date: October 18, 2017
About the Author
Lilla Dale McManis, MEd., PhD., uses her training and experience as a psychologist, child developmentalist, educator, researcher, and parent to promote positive child outcomes through informed and effective practices. Dr. McManis is President of Parent in the Know. She believes strongly in and enjoys translating research into meaningful practice.
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