Parenting Stress Products
We have conducted an extensive review and put together a smart collection of outstanding books and related products to help you learn more about yourself as a parent, your children, and to give you strategies and activities to be a more effective and satisfied parent and to promote your children’s optimal outcomes.
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Books on understanding the sources and impacts of parenting stress
“Salted with insights and epigrams, the book is argued with bracing honesty and flashes of authentic wisdom…[an] excellent book.” —Andrew Solomon, The New York Times Book Review
“[A] richly woven, entertaining, enlightening, wrenching and funny book.” —The Washington Post
The instant New York Times bestseller that the Christian Science Monitor declared “an important book, much the way The Feminine Mystique was, because it offers parents a common language, an understanding that they’re not alone”
Thousands of books have examined the effects of parents on their children. But almost none have thought to ask: What are the effects of children on their parents?
In All Joy and No Fun, award-winning journalist Jennifer Senior analyzes the many ways children reshape their parents’ lives, whether it’s their marriages, their jobs, their habits, their hobbies, their friendships, or their internal senses of self. She argues that changes in the last half century have radically altered the roles of today’s mothers and fathers, making their mandates at once more complex and far less clear. Recruiting from a wide variety of sources—in history, sociology, economics, psychology, philosophy, and anthropology—she dissects both the timeless strains of parenting and the ones that are brand new, and then brings her research to life in the homes of ordinary parents around the country. The result is an unforgettable series of family portraits, starting with parents of young children and progressing in later chapters to parents of teens. Through lively and accessible storytelling, Senior follows these mothers and fathers as they wrestle with some of parenthood’s deepest vexations—and luxuriate in some of its finest rewards.
Meticulously researched yet imbued with emotional intelligence, All Joy and No Fun makes us reconsider some of our culture’s most basic beliefs about parenthood, all while illuminating the profound ways children deepen and add purpose to our lives. By focusing on parenthood, rather than parenting, the book is original and essential reading for mothers and fathers of today—and tomorrow.
Parents worry about BPA in plastics and chemicals in food, but when it comes to children’s health, the real toxin is parental stress, because kids pick up on everything.
Research shows that children can “catch” their parents’ stress just like they catch a virus, soaking up the stress that pervades a household until their developing nervous systems reach “overload.” Then kids act-out, or get sick.
Award-winning author David Code explains the medical research showing how parental stress is a major risk factor in today’s epidemic of child health problems, from allergies and obesity to ADHD, asthma, and sensory disorders. Parents need to know:
• Parental Stress Can Alter a Child’s Genes Scientists have discovered that our genes are not set in stone. There is a kind of “on-off switch” on genes, called the epigenome. Stress hormones can switch some “good” genes off, and some “bad” genes on.
• Parental Stress Affects Almost Every Child’s Health It’s just a matter of degree. The higher the stress levels in the parents, the higher the risk that good genes will be switched off, and bad genes will be switched on during a child’s development.
• It’s Never Too Late Yes, stressed parents create stressed children, but the damage can be reversed. Research suggests that, when parents relax more, children display fewer symptoms. As one Duke geneticist remarked, “I’ve got goose bumps right now talking about it. You’re looking at the book of life, how it’s read and how you can change it.”
Author David Code gives readers a “doctor’s note,” offering parents permission to relax, have fun and socialize more, so that our children can grow up healthier and happier. Edited by Sharon Begley, the former science editor of Newsweek, Code’s book explodes the myth that good parenting is about giving your child more attention.
Our healthy relationships are the best gift we can give our children, and this book shows you how.
Books on reducing stress during pregnancy
Pregnancy is exciting and exhilarating, but it can also be physically and psychologically demanding. The myth, perpetuated by social media, says that you should be “glowing,” but in reality, you may be anxious and find yourself on an emotional roller coaster. And that is okay. Feeling stressed and moody are very normal reactions to the changes your body is going through, the thoughts you might have about how your pregnancy will impact your career and relationships, and the social pressure to have a perfect pregnancy. High levels of stress and anxiety are not good for you or your baby, but there are ways to cope with and counteract these feelings, put them in perspective, and bring peace to your pregnancy. It is indeed possible to learn new skills that will enable you to glow and thrive.
In addition to featuring fun quizzes, stories of women with whom Dr. Alice Domar has worked, and information, advice, and encouragement, Finding Calm for the Expectant Mom includes mind-body techniques that can relieve stress, anxiety, and moodiness. With the tools and problem-solving approach presented here, you can adjust your expectations, restructure negative thought patterns, cultivate resilience, and not only meet the challenges of pregnancy, but happily anticipate the most amazing experience of your life: becoming a mother.
Pregnancy is a delicate time for you and your baby, and what your body experiences while you are expecting can affect your child for years to come. Emerging new evidence, for example, is now linking too much stress during pregnancy to a higher risk for childhood emotional, physical, and behavioral problems, including preterm birth, ADHD, and learning disabilities. In fact, as Stress Solutions for Pregnant Moms shows, managing stress could be just as important to your child’s health as avoiding smoking and alcohol while pregnant.
Not all stress, of course, is bad. The problem comes when we fail to recognize that the buildup of pressure and tension is tipping us into a danger zone. In her groundbreaking book–the first of its kind–Dr. Susan Andrews provides effective and easy-to-use solutions to help pregnant women everywhere quickly measure and gently manage their stress levels:
Stress Solutions for Pregnant Moms won the 2013 Independent Publisher Book Awards in Parenting.
Books on reducing stress when parenting your children
Parents are supposed to be at their best when their children are at their worst. The only problem is that parents are people, too, and are susceptible to knee-jerk reactions, anger, and fears that make perfect parenting nearly impossible. But it is possible to keep your long-term parenting goals in mind, give yourself credit for what you’re doing right, and most importantly, enjoy the rewards and joy of raising a child.
The Joy of Parenting is a compassionate guide for parents who sometimes feel overwhelmed—that is, all parents. The acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) skills in this book will help you develop the flexibility and mindfulness to help your child make critical transitions and gracefully move past the bumps along the way.
This guide offers practical skills-based exercises to help you:
- Handle tantrums and defiance with grace
- Refocus on big-picture values when you feel overwhelmed
- Act compassionately toward yourself when you make mistakes
- Adjust your parenting as your child works through typical developmental transitions
• Streamline your home environment. Reduce the amount of toys, books, and clutter—as well as the lights, sounds, and general sensory overload.
• Establish rhythms and rituals. Discover ways to ease daily tensions, create battle-free mealtimes and bedtimes, and tell if your child is overwhelmed.
• Schedule a break in the schedule. Establish intervals of calm and connection in your child’s daily torrent of constant doing.
• Scale back on media and parental involvement.Manage your children’s “screen time” to limit the endless deluge of information and stimulation.
A manifesto for protecting the grace of childhood, Simplicity Parenting is an eloquent guide to bringing new rhythms to bear on the lifelong art of raising children.