Parent-Child Relationship Products
We have conducted an extensive review and put together a smart collection of outstanding books and related products to help you learn more about yourself as a parent, your children, and to give you strategies and activities to be a more effective and satisfied parent and to promote your children’s optimal outcomes.
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Books on the nature of the parent-child relationship
In this revised edition, Dr. Alice Ginott, clinical psychologist and wife of the late Haim Ginott, and family relationship specialist Dr. H. Wallace Goddard usher this bestselling classic into the new century while retaining the book’s positive message and Haim Ginott’s warm, accessible voice. Based on the theory that parenting is a skill that can be learned, this indispensable handbook will show you how to:
• Discipline without threats, bribes, sarcasm, and punishment
• Criticize without demeaning, praise without judging, and express anger without hurting
• Acknowledge rather than argue with children’s feelings, perceptions, and opinions
• Respond so that children will learn to trust and develop self-confidence
This revolutionary book offered a straightforward prescription for empathetic yet disciplined child rearing and introduced new communication techniques that would change the way parents spoke with, and listened to, their children. Dr. Ginott’s innovative approach to parenting has influenced an entire generation of experts in the field, and now his methods can work for you, too.
One of the world’s leading child psychologists shatters the myth of “good parenting”
Caring deeply about our children is part of what makes us human. Yet the thing we call “parenting” is a surprisingly new invention. In the past thirty years, the concept of parenting and the multibillion-dollar industry surrounding it have transformed child care into obsessive, controlling, and goal-oriented labor intended to create a particular kind of child and therefore a particular kind of adult.
In The Gardener and the Carpenter, the pioneering developmental psychologist and philosopher Alison Gopnik argues that the familiar twenty-first-century picture of parents and children is profoundly wrong?it’s not just based on bad science, it’s bad for kids and parents, too.
Drawing on the study of human evolution and her own cutting-edge scientific research into how children learn, Gopnik shows that although caring for children is profoundly important, it is not a matter of shaping them to turn out a particular way. Children are designed to be messy and unpredictable, playful and imaginative?and to be very different both from their parents and from each other.
Internationally acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish “are doing for parenting today what Dr. Spock did for our generation” (ParentMagazine). Now, this bestselling classic includes fresh insights and suggestions as well as the author’s time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships, including innovative ways to:
· Cope with your child’s negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment
· Express your strong feelings without being hurtful
· Engage your child’s willing cooperation
· Set firm limits and maintain goodwill
· Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline
· Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise
· Resolve family conflicts peacefully
Enthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding.
Books on attachment
Studies in the 1950s revealed that young children hospitalized without their parents respond first by crying for them, then by showing signs of despair, and finally by emotionally detaching from the parents and acting indifferent to their absence. This detachment is hard to repair and highly detrimental to a child’s development-most children who feel they cannot rely on their parents grow up to become more emotionally insecure and less self-assured than their peers.
The Attachment Connection sorts out the facts from the fiction about parent-child attachment and shows how paying attention to the emotional needs of your child, particularly during the first five years of development, can help him or her grow up happy, secure, and confident. You’ll discover how your child’s brain is developing at each stage of growth and learn to use reasonable, easy-to-implement guidelines based on sound science to foster secure attachment, healthy social skills, and emotional regulation in your child.
An attachment specialist and a clinical psychologist with neurobiology expertise team up to explore the brain science behind parenting.
In this groundbreaking exploration of the brain mechanisms behind healthy caregiving, attachment specialist Daniel A. Hughes and veteran clinical psychologist Jonathan Baylin guide readers through the intricate web of neuronal processes, hormones, and chemicals that drive?and sometimes thwart?our caregiving impulses, uncovering the mysteries of the parental brain.
The biggest challenge to parents, Hughes and Baylin explain, is learning how to regulate emotions that arise?feeling them deeply and honestly while staying grounded and aware enough to preserve the parent–child relationship. Stress, which can lead to “blocked” or dysfunctional care, can impede our brain’s inherent caregiving processes and negatively impact our ability to do this. While the parent–child relationship can generate deep empathy and the intense motivation to care for our children, it can also trigger self-defensive feelings rooted in our early attachment relationships, and give rise to “unparental” impulses.
Learning to be a “good parent” is contingent upon learning how to manage this stress, understand its brain-based cues, and respond in a way that will set the brain back on track. To this end, Hughes and Baylin define five major “systems” of caregiving as they’re linked to the brain, explaining how they operate when parenting is strong and what happens when good parenting is compromised or “blocked.” With this awareness, we learn how to approach kids with renewed playfulness, acceptance, curiosity, and empathy, re-regulate our caregiving systems, foster deeper social engagement, and facilitate our children’s development.
Infused with clinical insight, illuminating case examples, and helpful illustrations, Brain-Based Parenting brings the science of caregiving to light for the first time. Far from just managing our children’s behavior, we can develop our “parenting brains,” and with a better understanding of the neurobiological roots of our feelings and our own attachment histories, we can transform a fraught parent-child relationship into an open, regulated, and loving one.
Books on relationships with teens
Teenagers are left feeling unheard and misunderstood, and parents are left feeling bewildered by the changes in their child at adolescence and their sudden lack of effectiveness as parents. The parent has become unavailable, the teen responds in kind, and a negative, often destructive cycle of communication begins. Well, the truth of the matter is, you can physically be right next to someone and still not really be available to them. If you need them to be something they’re not, if you are harsh, criticizing and judging, if your anxiety is center stage, then you are not truly available.
The available parent of a teenager is open to discussion, offering advice and problem-solving, but not insisting on it. He allows his child to make some mistakes, setting limits, primarily where health and safety are concerned. He never lectures ? he is available but not controlling. The available parent is self-aware, and keeps his own emotions in check when dealing with his teen. He is unconditionally loving and accepting, and open to new and different ways of thinking. As such, he is neither cruel nor dismissive, ever. The available parent is
The author of Choice Theory and Reality Therapy offers a powerful approach for helping troubled teens.
In his decades as a therapist, Dr William Glasser has often counselled parents and teenagers. His advice has healed shattered families and changed lives. Now in his first book on the lessons he has learned, he asks parents to reject the ‘common sense’ that tells them to ‘lay down the law’, ground teens, or try to coerce them into changing behaviour. These strategies have never worked, asserts Dr Glasser, and never will. Instead he offers a different approach based upon Choice Theory. Glasser spells out the seven deadly habits parents practiSe and then shows them how to accomplish their goals by changing their own behaviour. Above all, he helps parents keep their relationship with their child strong. Dr Glasser provides a groundbreaking method that any parent can use with confidence and love.
Books & activities to strengthen parent-child relationships
Some kids are non-stop blabbers and others need electroshock therapy to pry more than one-word answers out of them. Welcome, TableTopics Family! This nifty box contains a multitude of provocative questions to focus the blabbers and stimulate the silent types. Just try pulling out these dinner conversation cards and asking: Which is more important, intelligence or common sense? What is the story behind your name? What event in the past or future would you like to witness in person? When is it OK to lie?
Use TableTopics Family edition as a board game for families or card game for families. The clear acrylic cube holds 135 question cards, enough to keep the conversation going through middle school.
“…these little boxes are awesome. The question cards fuel interesting discussion and get everyone involved.” – Gwyneth Paltrow, goop
“Spice up family dinners with these creative, thought-provoking conversation starters…” – Better Homes and Gardens In December 2002, Cristy Clarke was on her way to a holiday cocktail party, trying to think of interesting conversation starters because she couldn’t face another evening of small talk that went nowhere. She jotted down a few great questions and then tried them out on her fellow party goers. Her experiment was a complete success, and by morning she was writing questions to test on her three daughters at their family dinner. The result is TableTopics, a collection of conversation starter sets meant to spark fun, interesting, and meaningful discussions around the dinner table, at parties, on dates, on road trips – wherever!
The game creates amazing conversation, allowing players to quickly learn about themselves and their fellow players. And all in an encouraging and fun atmosphere, with no pressure or judgment. When has a game asked you to share a past accomplishment that you’re proud of, or a challenge that taught you a valuable lesson? When has a game challenged you to write a thank you letter to a loved one, or give a flower to a stranger?
Better Me also harnesses the power of accountability. Any player committing to an action gets an accountability partner to help them follow through. Both players write down the action, and the target completion date on their game sheet. These accountability partnerships are key to ensuring that players take action and grow. It’s a game-ified mastermind/support group!
Players move around the game board and draw cards that prompt positive action and discussion. Players race to fulfill each of their five life areas, heart, mind, body, people and tangibles. Points are earned by giving a sincere compliment, sharing a story of an important lesson learned, committing to empowering action outside the game, etc. It’s the new and engaging game to improve yourself, your health & happiness, and your relationships with friends, family, and coworkers, all while having fun!
Who Will You Play With? Family, Friends, Coworkers, Classmates, Teammates, Social Club, Mastermind Group, Counseling Clients, Therapy Groups…
Where Will You Play? School, Coffee Shop , Family Gathering, Convention, Dinner Party, Campground, Plane, Church, Pub… Designed for 2-8 players